I started working with males and their households on November 21, 1969 when our first son, Jemal, was born. After I held my new child child in my arms for the primary time, I made a promise that I’d be a unique type of father than my father was capable of be for me and do every little thing I might to create a world the place males have been totally healed and related with their households all through their lives. I had not too long ago earned my Grasp’s Diploma in Social Welfare from U.C. Berkeley however realized that nothing actually ready me for what it meant to be a father for the primary time.
When our daughter, Angela, got here into the world three years later, my skilled and private life got here collectively and I launched my web site, MenAlive, as my widow to the world to share my work on gender-specific healthcare. On the time there have been only a few applications centered on males’s psychological, emotional, and relational well being. Now there are a lot of.
One program I instantly had an curiosity in studying about is named The Good Males Undertaking. It was based by Tom Mattlack and launched in 2009.
“The Good Males Undertaking® is a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity may appear to be within the twenty first century,”
the press raved after they launched. Tom got down to accumulate tales in regards to the defining moments in males’s lives. He found that the connecting concept between all of the tales of the boys Tom talked to was that there was a second when every man
“awakened, seemed within the mirror and stated ‘I assumed I knew what it meant to be a person. I assumed I knew what it meant to be good. And I notice that I don’t know both.’”
Tom Mattlack continues to share his insights, understandings, and experiences. In a current weblog put up, “Do You Have 5 Actual Pals?” he says,
“We, as males, are in disaster,”
and affords the next startling realties about males’s lives right this moment:
Suicide amongst younger males, 18-24 years of age, is rising sooner than another demographic.
90% of college shooters are younger white males.
The typical younger man is apathetic and woefully behind academically.
Introduce drawback by race and socioeconomic class, and every little thing will get even worse.
“Nevertheless it’s not simply younger males, in fact,”
“I speak to the titans of the business day by day who’re misplaced. A couple of months in the past the daddy of personal fairness, billionaire Tommy Lee, went to the workplace to shoot himself useless. Males of all ages, race, and sophistication are struggling. We’re 4 occasions extra prone to commit suicide. We comprise 70% of OD deaths. We’re in serious trouble.”
The way forward for males is in danger and we’re studying the underlying causes of our issues.
“All scientific analysis factors to a single wrongdoer above all others,”
says Mattlack, Isolation.
“As males, we’re socialized, by no means to let down our guard or to get susceptible. And it’s killing us.”
Lisa Hickey, The Good Males Undertaking, and The Moonshot for Mankind
Lisa Hickey met Tom Mattack when he was starting to place his tales collectively for a e book. Lisa describes the encounter in my forthcoming e book, Lengthy Stay Males! The Moonshot Mission to Heal Males, Shut the Lifespan Hole, and Provide Hope to Humanity.
The Moonshot for Mankind and Humanity
Twenty years in the past I learn a analysis research that modified my life. My colleagues Randolph Nesse, MD and Daniel Kruger, PhD examined untimely deaths amongst males in 20 nations. They discovered that in each nation, males died sooner and lived sicker than girls and their shortened well being and lifespan harmed the boys and their households.
They concluded with three highly effective statements:
“Being male is now the only largest demographic issue for early demise.”
“Over 375,000 lives can be saved in a single yr within the U.S. alone if males’s danger of dying was as little as girls’s.”
“For those who might make male mortality charges the identical as feminine charges, you’ll do extra good than curing most cancers.”
There are clearly organic elements that favor girls in longevity, however there may be a lot we are able to do to assist males reside totally wholesome lives. In 2021 I invited quite a lot of colleagues who have been doing nice work to assist males and their households to affix me in what I known as our “Moonshot for Mankind and Humanity.” Having written for the Good Males Undertaking from the start I knew Lisa and the good work she was doing. She accepted my invitation to affix us. Right here’s what Lisa recounted in Lengthy Stay Males!
“When Jed Diamond informed me about his concept for the moonshot mission, I felt precisely the identical approach as I felt that day I made a decision to assist launch The Good Males Undertaking.”
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